Strolling down the road, trying to clear my head after a
hectic day, i saw a girl out of the corner of my eyes silently
crying,talking to someone on the phone telling of what just happened
with her and her boyfriend…..guess what,
she just got her HEART BROKEN.
So i got thinking, and i asked myself why don’t we talk about this
thing destroying people both emotionally and sometimes mentally.
So i decided to try help people get over this and give some tips on how to get over heart breaks.
Someone once said that “there is no such thing as a broken heart,only
a heart that is learning to love more and better”.
Imagine a glass
breaks as it hits the ground, it shatters into a million pieces, some of
these pieces you find right away and you believe they are big enough
and want to repair them,but the glass will never quite be the same
again. After sometime you decide, its actually dangerous to drink from
the glass so you make up your mind its really not worth the risk. You
may actually get another glass but never use it.Then
days or weeks or even months later, you find a piece of the old glass by
accident and it mistakenly cuts you in the process, you then begin to
regret the day you bought that old glass.
Just as the glass, you heart gets broken and it feels like it can
never be repaired. And you feel the experience of falling in love will
never be the same again and you may even make a vow never to love again
deciding that its not worth the risk you begin to always hold back. If
you focus too much on the heart break,you begin to resent the idea of
love and relationships.Remember i said this was one of the reasons why
people prefer to remain single.Even
when you think you are passed the heart break you might stumble upon a
romantic movie or hear a song on the radio that floods your memory with
the bitter experience.
Heart break is a heart wrenching,stomach swirling, throat narrowing monster which nobody wants to endure.Little wonder why a young man in his 20's hung himself when his girlfriend he has been dating for just 6 months broke his heart. Heart
break is not just exclusive to love and relationships alone, but anyone
who has ever lost a loved one, maybe a parent or a child or a family
member or a very close friend can testify to this fact.
HOW DO WE BEGIN TO HEAL A BROKEN HEART?
* Do not try to get over it by just forgetting it ever happened.No
matter the cause of the pain you feel emotionally,the idea of trying to
forget it or bypass it will not work.Instead try to learn how to
reconnect with the cause of your pain because it helps. like reflecting
on the memory of the good times you shared with that person is a good
way of approaching a bad experience.
* Distract your self to a certain degree but do not bury yourself in
work or alcohol as when the effect and the tiredness wears off,you will
be back to square one.Smile when you can and cry if there is a need to as it will purge you of the pain.
* Focus on your life’s vision,that is refocus on your own life and ask your self what you really want in a partner and then develop that in yourself first.
* Know that tears are healing,its a way of release.Allow
yourself to sob in the shower and embrace the part of you that is
inconsolable.instead of fighting the pain in your heart,let them be and
accept them as part of the healing process.
* And most of all prepare your heart to be ready to love again because i
always say it doesn't matter how many times you fall when running but
how many times you were able to get up and continue running that’s what
makes you strong…….
what are your thoughts on this? Lets share what we think..
